"Pretending to be deaf and dumb", when people see this phrase, they may be a little confused. But if we put it another way, it might be easier to understand, "It's better to mind one's own business and avoid unnecessary trouble."
In large families with many siblings, conflicts between brothers and sisters are inevitable. In such situations, they tend to involve the elderly as referees and often complain to them. At this time, it is best for the elderly to pretend to be confused. As the saying goes, "Even a fair judge finds it difficult to resolve family affairs," let alone someone in their twilight years! The best approach for the elderly is to let them resolve these conflicts on their own.
It may sound simple to ask elderly people to "pretend to be deaf and dumb" and not to get involved, but they still worry about the younger generation. Because the elderly have more experience and a broader perspective, they see many trivial matters that others may not take seriously. The elderly feel uneasy about it until the problem is resolved, then they feel relieved, as if a burden has been lifted from their hearts.
However, doing so may not necessarily be a good thing. People often say, "Children and grandchildren have their own blessings, and it's unnecessary to sacrifice oneself for them." As people age, their physical functions also decline, and what the elderly should do is to go out of the house regularly, go to parks, senior clubs, or spend time with friends to enrich their old age, instead of exhausting themselves every day over trivial matters.
The elderly are a special group of people. They have rich social experience, but their physical functions gradually deteriorate. They want to continue to contribute, but after retiring from work, they find that there is not much they can do besides fulfilling their obligations to their children. Therefore, many elderly people are willing to get involved in other people's affairs, and this is not surprising.
Therefore, at home, they are reluctant to retreat to the "second line" and are always worried that their children will not be able to handle things well, so they want to intervene in every matter, big or small. The conflicts between young couples, the disagreements or disputes between siblings and in-laws, the social interactions between relatives and friends, even the purchase of furniture for their children's homes, the procurement of food, and the methods of educating their children are all areas they want to intervene in. But in reality, these are often thankless tasks that only add to their worries and can even affect their health.
A friendly reminder from the editor:
As the saying goes, "With age comes wisdom." Constant nagging can be an "unpleasant" habit. It can be divided into two types: emphasizing and venting. The emphasizing type is often referred to as the "good deeds go unnoticed" type. People of this type usually don't trust others to do things and repeatedly remind them, which can lead to open confrontation with young people who are already irritated, resulting in a counterproductive reaction. The venting type often causes people around them to avoid them. They often complain about things they don't like, resulting in extremely tense or broken interpersonal relationships.
