In the growth of children, mothers play an extremely important role. It can be said that the weight of mothers is greater than that of fathers. Not only do mothers spend more time with their children, but also children have an inherent closeness to their mothers. Therefore, they rely on their mothers more. Mothers, pay attention! These mothers are most likely to raise children with high emotional intelligence.
Ways to Cultivate Emotional Intelligence
1. Teach children survival skills
Western countries, including Japan in East Asia, attach great importance to children's survival education. From the time children become sensible, they are taught how to survive and be independent. They learn how to pick themselves up after falling, feed themselves, organize their belongings, and know how to protect themselves in different situations.
2. Cultivate patience and self-control
Psychologists once conducted an experiment in which kindergarten teachers gave each child a piece of candy and told them, "If you eat it now, you will only get one piece. If you can wait for an hour before eating it, you will be rewarded with an additional piece."
The results of the follow-up study showed that children who were able to delay gratification had a significantly higher success rate than those who could not.
This is called the delayed gratification effect in psychology.
3. Don't make decisions for children
When helping children choose things, let them buy according to their own preferences. This will raise children with their own opinions and without a sense of dependence, and it will help cultivate their sense of responsibility.
4. Expose children to society more
Some parents rarely let their children go out, worrying about this and that. Children who cry and hide when they see strangers may become sensitive and withdrawn when they grow up.
5. Cultivate children's curiosity and spirit of exploration
Children passively accept external stimuli and gradually become curious about everything around them. They want to try touching, looking, and even break toys into pieces. This is a manifestation of their thirst for knowledge and an important way to acquire knowledge and skills.
6. Encourage children to think creatively
A boy couldn't climb up the first step of the slide because his legs were too short. He begged his mother to lift him up, but she told him, "Use your brain, and you will find a way." The boy thought for a moment and said, "Drag my little cart over there, and then stand on it."
7. Protect children's self-esteem
Constantly scolding children for their mistakes, saying things like "Why are you so disobedient?" or "Don't touch this, don't touch that," will hurt their confidence and self-esteem.
8. Provide encouragement and support
Children's growth is not always smooth sailing. There may be successes, failures, and even unrealistic fantasies. Encouragement and support are especially needed when facing difficulties and setbacks. Never pour cold water on them. Even if their dreams seem strange to you, you should be happy that they have a strong imagination, which is the mentor of creativity.
9. Cultivate children's respect for others, sense of unity, and cooperative consciousness
Society is a collective. It is impossible to achieve anything by relying solely on one person's efforts. It is necessary to learn to interact with different people and make the best use of their strengths. Parents must cultivate children's awareness of cooperation, train their cooperative behaviors, and enhance their ability to cooperate.
This requires learning to respect others and being good at uniting with people who have different opinions.
