Why do children love throwing tantrums?
Parents with young children often face the problem of their child crying and throwing tantrums, especially during the ages of 2-5. Different parents have different reactions to their child's crying. Some parents immediately try to calm their child down, some parents choose to ignore them, and some parents are unsure of what to do. But what should we do when our child throws a tantrum?
Occasional tantrums in children are normal. Just think about us adults, we all have moments when we are in a bad mood and want to throw a tantrum. However, if your child frequently throws tantrums, it is something that needs to be addressed. Before we figure out what to do about our child's tantrums, let's take a look at why children throw tantrums.
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Why do children love throwing tantrums?
1. Overindulgence
Many families nowadays have only one child. With this being the only child in the family, parents and grandparents tend to spoil them. They fulfill every demand the child has. In many cases, this excessive indulgence leads to the child becoming delicate. If their demands are not met, they throw a tantrum.
2. Mimicking
Children often exhibit some traits of their parents, whether it's in appearance or personality. If parents are quick to throw tantrums to solve problems, it is likely that their child will do the same. This sets a bad example.
3. Physical discomfort
When people are physically uncomfortable, they tend to get irritable. Even the slightest inconvenience can make it difficult to sleep and make one feel restless. Children are no different. When they are physically uncomfortable, their temper worsens.
4. Strong ego
Parents always want their children to excel and strive to be the best in everything. Over time, children develop a strong ego. If they don't achieve their desired goals, they throw a tantrum.
What to do when children throw tantrums
1. Create a calm zone
If your child frequently throws tantrums and behaves unreasonably, you can create a calm zone at home. When your child throws a tantrum, take them to this area and leave them alone. Do not pay attention to them and tell them to calm down within a certain timeframe. When the child realizes that nobody is paying attention to their crying and they need to quiet down, they will eventually stop crying and calm down. During this process, parents need to be firm and consistent, and other family members, especially grandparents, should not give in to the child's crying. If you constantly comfort and hold the child while they throw a tantrum, it will only reinforce their bad temper. If you can stick to this method, after a period of time, the child will realize that throwing tantrums cannot solve problems, and their temper will improve. This can also teach the child to think calmly.
2. Have the tantrum-throwing child look in the mirror
Many times, children throw tantrums as an unconscious way of expressing their dissatisfaction. They simply want to get attention from their parents. If your child throws tantrums, you can lead them to a mirror and let them see themselves throwing a tantrum. Seeing their own reflection in the mirror often frightens them, and this can help develop their self-awareness. Then, when the child calms down, you can explain things to them.
Children's tantrums come and go quickly, but parents should not tolerate their bad temper. In order to correct their bad temper, parents should set a good example and not easily lose their temper in front of their child. And parents should not deceive their child.
