Girls in love often have a hard time understanding their boyfriend's feelings, fearing that "one wrong move will lead to eternal regret." Here, psychologists teach you a few methods to determine if your boyfriend has any hidden psychological issues. If your boyfriend exhibits any of the following courtship psychology, there may be some hidden dangers in his love.
1. Absolute self-centeredness.
This type of man considers whether finding a partner is beneficial to his "future" as the unbreakable condition. He expects his girlfriend to constantly demonstrate "advantages" and bring him some benefits. Once his expectations are not met or the possibility of meeting them is not there, he will become angry and even feel that you have let him down.
2. Logical error association.
This type of man is usually rich in associations and suspicious. Generally speaking, he values love but has a narrow understanding and is very sensitive to his lover's actions. Once his girlfriend does something he cannot understand or is unhappy about, he will "fantasize" and rigidly find evidence that you are not on the same page as him.
3. Lack of emotional empathy.
When evaluating and treating his girlfriend, this type of man lacks sympathy and cannot put himself in her shoes to provide evaluation and understanding. Especially when the girlfriend is in a difficult situation and needs emotional empathy, he withdraws or ignores it. He can only share joy with you but not share hardships.
4. Incorrect contrast psychology.
This type of man often compares his strengths to his girlfriend's weaknesses, or compares his girlfriend's weaknesses to others' strengths. When starting to date you, this man can quickly discover your strengths and appreciate them, and your relationship will heat up. But if he discovers that your strengths are so insignificant, he will become indifferent towards you, and this indifference often becomes a temptation, making you even more mysterious.
5. Compliance and excitement psychology.
This type of man generally likes fashion, is sensitive to trends, but lacks autonomy and self-confidence. His individual consciousness is influenced by external trends, and he particularly likes trendy women. He pays attention to his girlfriend's appearance, hairstyle, clothing, and is very willing to invest in this aspect for his girlfriend. However, if you cannot meet his "aesthetic" requirements, he will complain incessantly.
When you find any of the above psychological traits in your boyfriend, do not take it lightly. Of course, strictly speaking, any man will have one or more of these concerns to some extent. There is no need to panic, and there is no need to "end the relationship" as soon as you discover it, otherwise, you will never find a satisfactory partner. The key is to determine whether you truly love him. You can openly discuss your concerns with him and make him aware of the dangers of these hidden issues.
If you have just started dating and the relationship is not deep, you can still talk to him and see how things go. If you feel it is unnecessary, you can end the relationship. However, regardless of which approach you take, one thing to keep in mind is whether your judgment of him is correct and comprehensive. Otherwise, making assumptions and being self-righteous will bring you lifelong pain.
