Tolerance: The Regulator of Psychological Well-being
In social interactions, it is inevitable that one will experience setbacks, misunderstandings, and grievances. In the face of these, the wisest choice is to learn to be tolerant. Tolerance is a good psychological quality. It not only involves understanding and forgiveness but also demonstrates magnanimity, resilience, and strength. Those who are unable to tolerate and only demand perfection from others often find themselves in a state of tension, leading to increased nervous excitement, blood vessel constriction, and high blood pressure, which creates a vicious cycle of psychological and physiological distress. Learning to be tolerant means being strict with oneself and treating others with kindness, which is like installing a regulator for one's own psychological well-being.
Kindness: The Nutrient for Psychological Well-being
Having a kind heart means finding joy in the happiness of others, being willing to help the poor and the needy, and experiencing a sense of contentment. Having a kind heart means being kind to others, enjoying friendly relations, and experiencing a sense of pleasure. Having a kind heart means being honest and open, and feeling at ease. In short, those who have a kind heart will always maintain a calm psychological state. This state of mind can optimize blood flow and the excitability of nerve cells, thereby improving the body's ability to resist diseases. Therefore, kindness is an essential nutrient for psychological well-being.
Optimism: The Elixir of Psychological Well-being
Optimism is a positive character and state of mind. It can stimulate a person's vitality and potential, help resolve conflicts, and overcome difficulties. On the other hand, pessimism is a negative and depressed character and state of mind. It makes people sad, worried, and suffering, leaving them at a loss in the face of difficulties, which affects their physical and mental health.
Detachment: The Immune Booster for Psychological Well-being
Detachment means being content with little, not pursuing fame and fortune. Zhang Zhidong, a famous figure from the late Qing Dynasty, said, "Contentment is the key to peace of mind." The contemporary writer Bing Xin also believed that "when one has no desires, one is at peace with oneself." This shows that detachment is a noble realm and mentality, which provides a deep-level orientation for the pursuit of life. With a detached mindset, one will not go with the flow of the secular world, chasing after fame and fortune. One will not be excessively happy or sad over external things, nor will one complain or envy others. A detached mindset keeps a person in a state of equanimity, repelling any factors that harm physical and mental health.
Here are a few points to consider for mental well-being:
Abandon doubt: Those who are constantly suspicious believe that others are plotting against them, and they are always on guard, causing restlessness and frequent insomnia.
Abandon jealousy: Jealousy towards others' achievements without considering how to catch up, hoping that others will fail.
Abandon impatience: Easily gets angry, with a red face and neck, shouting or quarreling, even resorting to verbal abuse, physical violence, or property damage, and then experiencing a strange sense of satisfaction.
Abandon sorrow: Living in constant worry, with a gloomy expression and a heavy heart.
Abandon vigilance: Always being on edge, afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing, afraid of offending others.
Abandon grief: Throughout one's life, unfortunate events often come to mind, and a sense of sadness emerges.
Abandon inferiority: Feeling inferior to others in every aspect, as if one is three points shorter. Disliking working with others, becoming more and more eccentric and isolated, lacking enjoyment in life.
Abandon arrogance: Being self-righteous and thinking of oneself as the best. People around them respect and keep their distance, while they are self-satisfied. Living a hollow life, lacking purpose and lacking enjoyment.
