How to make the wedding night sweeter is a concern for every newlywed couple. It is natural for the first sexual experience on the wedding night to be satisfying. However, it is normal for newlyweds to feel nervous, shy, and fearful due to a lack of sexual knowledge and their recent introduction to each other. This does not necessarily affect the harmony of their future sexual life.
As time goes on, with the accumulation of sexual knowledge and experience, couples will eventually achieve sexual harmony. To make the wedding night sweeter, it is important to pay attention to the following points: Firstly, both partners should study sexual knowledge together before marriage. Reading books on sexual knowledge can help the couple understand anatomy, physiology, psychology, and behavior, which will enable them to be well-informed and avoid rushing into sexual activity.
Secondly, undergo premarital check-ups. Undergo premarital check-ups at designated local hospitals where doctors responsible for the examinations will patiently provide guidance on sexual health, marital health, and family planning. If there are any questions or misunderstandings about sexual knowledge from reading books, they can be addressed during the check-up.
Thirdly, pay attention to balancing work and rest before the wedding. Busy preparations for the wedding and social engagements can lead to excessive fatigue if work and rest are not balanced. Being excessively tired on the wedding night can affect sexual function, so it is important to allocate time properly, rest adequately, and avoid excessive fatigue before the wedding.
Fourthly, it is important to understand the sexual response cycle and engage in sexual behavior appropriately. The sexual response cycle can be divided into the excitement phase, plateau phase, orgasmic phase, and resolution phase. The excitement phase is the preparatory stage for sexual activity, the plateau phase and orgasmic phase involve sexual intercourse, and the resolution phase marks the end of sexual activity. Signs of the excitement phase include male erection and increased vaginal lubrication in females.
In the preparatory stage, both partners should use sweet words, gentle touch, and passionate stimulation to arouse each other's sexual excitement. They can also stimulate erogenous zones such as the male genitalia or female clitoris and breasts to promote early sexual arousal for both parties, and then proceed to sexual intercourse. As they enter the orgasmic phase, sexual pleasure gradually increases. Signs of reaching orgasm include male ejaculation, vaginal contractions in females, increased secretion, and heightened excitement. At this stage, both partners should avoid discussing unrelated matters to prevent premature decline of sexual excitement. The orgasmic phase is short, lasting only a few seconds, followed by the resolution phase where the male penis gradually becomes flaccid, and both partners gradually return to a state of calm. Since male sexual desire diminishes quickly while female sexual desire diminishes slowly, the groom should continue to caress the bride and wait until her sexual desire has completely subsided and she feels tired before ending the sexual activity and resting together. The groom should pay attention to the bride's physiological characteristics and not leave her immediately after ejaculation to sleep alone, as this can affect the satisfaction of the bride's sexual desire.
Throughout the entire sexual experience, it is important for both partners to cooperate, be considerate, and have mutual understanding. For a bride's first sexual experience, she may feel shy or timid, and may be mentally tense. Therefore, the groom should offer comforting words, gentle gestures, and gentle movements, avoiding roughness. The bride should also actively cooperate, so that the sexual experience can be harmonious and enjoyable. If there are any issues, seek timely psychological counseling.
In the event of erectile dysfunction in the groom or vaginal spasm in the bride, which affects the sexual activity on the wedding night, both parties should remain calm and avoid blaming each other. They can seek psychological counseling at a hospital, where they can truthfully explain their experiences and receive timely and reasonable solutions under the guidance of a doctor.
